In my case, I grew up in a household where “my mother was a full-time homemaker<\/strong>,” so from a young age, I thought “women don\u2019t work, women stay at home<\/strong>.” The cartoons I often watched on TV back then\u2014Doraemon, Sazae-san, Chibi Maruko-chan\u2014all featured families where the mother was a full-time homemaker, which probably reinforced that idea.<\/p>\n Time passed, and when I went to university, I first truly felt that “in the future, women will work too<\/strong>.” After graduating, I got a job and worked so hard for 15 years that I even got sick from it. But now, I write this blog at home, pick up my kids from kindergarten, and live a child-centered life\u2026 before I knew it, I was living a life similar to my own mother\u2019s back then<\/strong>.<\/p>\n I never imagined this when I was working so hard, but after many turning points, this is where I ended up.<\/p>\n While it feels strange, I also think that “the image of my mother I saw as a child unconsciously influenced the choices I made in life<\/strong>.”<\/p>\n Thinking about this, I noticed that my eldest daughter already holds the formula of “men are like this, women are like that<\/strong>.” For example, for a long time (about three years)<\/span> I couldn\u2019t drive a manual car, and my daughter saw that and concluded:<\/p>\n \u201cMom can\u2019t drive a noisy car (manual car)<\/span>, but Dad can, so boys can drive and girls can\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n Recently, when I finally learned to drive a manual car, she asked me with a puzzled look,<\/p>\n \u201cWhy can Mom do the noisy car stuff even though she\u2019s a girl?\u201d<\/p>\n I answered, \u201cNo, both boys and girls can drive. Mom worked hard practicing and got better. When you grow up and practice, you\u2019ll be able to drive too.\u201d But she still looked puzzled.<\/p>\n There was another incident. All the Porsches in our family were bought by my husband, and recently he bought a car for his mother too (since she\u2019s elderly, it had to be a car with solid safety features)<\/span>.<\/p>\n My daughter seemed to have assumed that \u201ccars are something men buy.\u201d Later, when I said, “Mom is working hard because she wants to buy a Porsche with her own money<\/strong>,\u201d she responded,<\/p>\n \u201cWow, do you really need that many Porsches!? And don\u2019t you get cars from Dad?\u201d<\/p>\n I replied, “Well, that\u2019s how it is right now\u2026 (-_-), but there are lots of girls who buy their own Porsches. Also, I want to buy what I want with my own money.<\/strong>” She looked like she understood, but maybe not fully.<\/p>\n Also, when we went to watch a race at the circuit, there happened to be a ladies\u2019 car race that day. Until then, my daughter thought “only men drive cars, and girls just stand around wearing cute clothes (race queens)<\/span><\/strong>.” She was surprised and said,<\/p>\n \u201cWhy are the girls dressed like boys!?\u201d<\/p>\n Well, the car world might be a bit special in that regard, but even in everyday life, I often notice moments where fixed ideas are forming.<\/p>\n Of course, there are things men can do physically that women can\u2019t, and I\u2019m not saying girls have to compete with boys, but I don\u2019t want my daughters to “limit their potential because of their gender<\/strong>.”<\/p>\n Japan today is a world where “if you want to do something, you can do anything<\/strong>.” There are fewer things women have to give up just because they\u2019re women (though of course, sometimes the pushback can be strong)<\/span>.<\/p>\n In this context, I believe it\u2019s the mother who can convey this to her daughters, and the mother can be the closest role model for her daughters<\/strong>. So I want to keep breaking my own shell and shattering my daughters\u2019 fixed ideas, showing them that girls can buy a Porsche too (maybe it\u2019s a bit of unsolicited advice)<\/span>.<\/p>\n That said, I have to be careful not to try so hard that they think, \u201cI don\u2019t want to be like Mom!\u201d (lol)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\u5e7c\u5c11\u671f\u306b\u7d4c\u9a13\u3057\u305f\u3053\u3068\u306b\u3088\u308a\u3001\u56fa\u5b9a\u6982\u5ff5\u304c\u81ea\u5206\u306e\u4e2d\u306b\u4f5c\u3089\u308c\u3066\u3044\u304f\u3068\u601d\u3044\u307e\u3059\u304c\u3001\u4eca\u56de\u306f\u300c\u5973\u306e\u5b50\u306f\u25cb\u25cb\u3067\u304d\u306a\u3044\u300d\u3068\u3044\u3046\u65b9\u7a0b\u5f0f\u3092\u6301\u3064\u9577\u5973\u3092\u898b\u3066\u3001\u5a18\u306e\u6559\u80b2\u306b\u3064\u3044\u3066\u8003\u3048\u3066\u307f\u307e\u3057\u305f\u3002","protected":false},"author":0,"featured_media":14630,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_locale":"en_US","_original_post":"https:\/\/www.panamera-life.com\/?p=14621"},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"Boys Can Do It, Girls Can\u2019t<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nGirls Can Do It Too<\/h3>\n