Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple, is said to have said this before his death.
If today was the last day of my life, would I want to do what I'm about to do? If the answer to that question is a resounding "no" every day, it's a sign that something needs to change.
Very thought-provoking.
If today was my last day I would never, ever do laundry, clean, or cook dinner lol.
I think I would spend more time playing with my children, taking the car to see the spectacular scenery, and eating good food.
So what is my daily routine now? Am I prioritizing what I want to do? Are the things I should be doing taking over from the things I want to do...?
Families have routines, and it's not realistic to just do what you want to do in your daily life, but the most successful and creative people I know are like Steve Jobs, who said, "I'm more focused on what I want to do than what I should do.I feel as if I am a "good" person.
The best and most familiar example is my husband, who routinelyDo what you want to do when you want to do it, and what you don't want to do, you either don't do or you turn it into something else."I think we are being very thorough about this.
And I, being the silly serious person that I am, have been told by my husband on every occasion for the last ten years or so thatBreak the daily routine.They keep saying, "W
I know, but it is not easy to change habits that have been ingrained for years. Nevertheless, we want to get as close to that world as possible by imitating the behavior patterns of successful people.
Today, I would like to write about that.
Since I was a child, I've always thought of myself as a "I want to be free from people telling me this and that.I had a strong feeling that "I am not a good person. For this reason, he was very interested in the "Finish what you need to do first, before what you want to do.The pattern of behavior called "the "I" has been repeated for many years.
By doing things like, "I will finish my summer vacation homework by the end of July," and "I don't want to be told to go to a prep school or cram school, so I will study by myself and get an average of 4.5 on a 5-point scale," my parents stopped nagging me about anything other than curfews.
Even after I entered the workforce and started working in sales.If you create a result that doesn't make your boss say whether or not you want it, you're free to do it.By thinking "I'm a good person," and focusing on creating results, I was allowed a great deal of freedom in my daily movements and sales approach.
Also, if we produced results, we were evaluated and our monthly allowances and bonuses increased."Prioritize what you need to do before what you want to do.The action of "I'm not going to do it," became my winning pattern.
The catalyst for the breakdown of my long-standing winning pattern was "child rearing.
I had my second child when my oldest daughter was three years old, and there were many changes in my work life.Save your work for a few years and focus on raising your children.I decided to do it.
It was a complete turnaround from my life before, where I had been among business owners and working mothers with a mountain of tasks to do every day and a sense of accomplishment, to joining a circle of full-time housewife mothers and going to the park together after picking up their children at 2:00 p.m.
In the beginning, I have to admit that I was quite perplexed.I stopped working at the time I used to work every day, and I felt guilty that I was slacking off; I felt empty, with no sense of accomplishment and nothing piling up; I felt impatient that I was being left behind while everyone around me was active in their work....
Many emotions swirled around me, and the months passed without me being able to sort them out.
After that, I started to work a little more and started this Porsche blog, which gradually gave me more and more tension in my daily life.
Most of the time, however, I was swamped by my second daughter, who was only a few months old, forcing me to finish what I wanted to do with no progress at all and leaving me with indigestion.
Since that time, "The winning pattern of doing what needs to be done first to gain freedom no longer works.My husband often gave me this advice.
You should no longer live a lifestyle where you wake up in the morning and move according to a routine.I think we should try to be more flexible and move flexibly according to the situation of the day.
Sometimes you can't do what you set out to do, and if you don't want to do it now, you can put it off. If you don't finish your task for the day, it won't kill you, no big deal.
Instead, just do what you want to do at the time and try to feel better about it.
I never said anything about "working hard," and in fact, I don't think you should work hard. If I couldn't make dinner that day, I would come home and eat it, so there is no need to force myself to make it.Anyway, I have to stop living a frustrating life tied to routine.
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Yes, it really is true, and it was very difficult to change ingrained habits and long-standing patterns of success, even though I knew it in my head as much as I hated to do so.
This is not the way to go. As they also say, "Get out of comfort," you can't grow if you stay in your comfort zone!
I told myself, "I'm not going to(Stupid sincerity to try hard not to try hard...W)I am conscious of it every day as if I am rehabilitating myself, and I am gradually getting used to the uncomfortable feeling, and I am now thinking that I am only a little bit better than before over the years.
And more recently, "Breaking the routine is a discovery, and it often works rather well.I have come to realize that "the
It's a small detail, but when I'm in the middle of writing a blog and the kids are talking to me endlessly, "Oh, my God! I'm busy. I'll see you later!But once you stop and listen to them or play with them, they will be satisfied and will not talk to you anymore, or they will stop talking to you.
Rather than washing dishes each time and keeping the sink clean all the time, it takes less time to wash some dishes at a time, etc....
Each one is a very small thing, but they are the things that I've been "doing" all my life.This is something that needs to be done, it needs to be done first.I learned that what I thought was a "big deal" was actually not a big deal, and that changing the way I did things from time to time often resulted in a quicker completion.
The world has been saying that "Survivors are not the strong, but those who change.I have been told that it is "a I have been told that "A person who changes is a person who has the courage to make big changes at a turning pointI thought, "I'm not going to be able to do that.
But now, "People who can change are those who can make small changes at the level of daily habits before they can make big changes!I began to think, "I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do.
This is because changing daily habits is much more difficult and has a greater impact on you than making once-in-a-lifetime decisions that involve major changes every few years.
I think a successful person is one who can change day by day.A person who does not stick to routine, is not bound by it, and can flexibly change his/her style. A person who rarely falls into thought-stops in the unconscious realm in his/her daily activities, who never forgets the purpose beyond his/her actions, and who is always able to create a better form.
I guess that's why creativity and imagination are honed in those days, and the daily accumulation makes a big difference. On this subject, my husband
Because there are people in the world who do routines to set the tone and calm themselves mentally.I think there is a good side, of course.
In my case, my mentor from my ronin days told me, "You can study when you want to. If you don't want to do it, don't do it. If you don't want to do it, don't do it.I think I've learned to live flexibly since then.
As much as possible, avoiding unconventional lifestyles.I have to be, I have to be, I have to be.I question each and every one of these questions and ask myself, "Is this really true? I try to think from the beginning and act accordingly.
So, sometimes I put things off right away, and other times I get things done with tremendous concentration. I guess I feel like I only do what I want to do now, what I really need to do, and make a living doing it.
When I say it like that, people might say, "Well, you can do it because you are not a salaryman. But I have been like that since I was a salaried worker. I think I was a difficult subordinate for my boss to deal with (laughs).
He said.
I am a silly, serious, routine-loving person, but this year I want to break free from that and learn to live a more flexible and unconstrained life.
Okay, let's go for it! ...I don't have to work so hard, do I?
