What one experiences, sees and hears as a child has a profound impact on later life. For example, "Men are like this, women are like that.I think the equation, "I am a good person," is deeply ingrained in me.
In my example, I would say.Mother is a housewifeI grew up in a family where, as a child, I was told that "Women don't work, women stay at home.I thought that I was a "housewife". I guess I felt this way even more so because my mother was a housewife in the household, as was the case with Doraemon, Sazae-san, and Chibimaruko-chan, all of which I often watched on TV at the time.
As time went on, I went to college and for the first time, I was able to "getIn the future, women will work too.I experienced firsthand what it means to be a "good person". Then, after graduating from college, I got a job, and from there I worked so hard for 15 years that I got sick, but now I've made a complete turnaround and now I blog at home, pick up my children from kindergarten, and my life is centered around my children and...I found myself living like my mother at the time.The company is working on a new project.
I never imagined this when I was working selflessly, but through various turning points, this is what happened.
While I wonder....I guess the way I watched my mother as a child influenced my life choices on an unconscious level.I sometimes think, "I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do.
When I looked at my own child with this in mind, my eldest daughter was already "in theThe equation is this for men and this for womenI noticed that I have a "I have a "I have a "I have a "I have a "I have a For example, there is a long(about 3 years)My eldest daughter saw me unable to drive a manual car.
Mothers are messy cars.(Manual car)can't drive and dad can, which means boys can drive and girls can't."
I seem to have learned the equation. Only recently, when I was able to drive a manual car, did
Why can't your mother make a mess when you're a girl?
He asked with a curious look on his face.
I said, "No.Can be driven by boys or girls.I'm sure you can do it. Your mother practiced hard so you could do it. When you grow up and practice, you'll be able to ride too. But he still looked at me strangely.
There was also this. All of our family's Porsches have been purchased by my husband, and also in response to my husband's recent purchase of his mother's car for her.(My mother is elderly and it would be dangerous for her not to have a car with adequate safety equipment.)
My eldest daughter seemed to think that cars are something that men buy. Later, I said to her, "And your mom is working hard because she wants to buy a Porsche with her own money.I say."
Oh, you need that many Porsches! And don't you get your dad to buy you a car?
He said.
."No, well, the current situation is so... (-_-) But there are a lot of girls who buy their own Porsches, too. And mothers want to buy what they want for themselves.I answered, "I don't know," but my daughter looked as if she didn't understand.
Another time I went to the circuit to watch a race. There happened to be a ladies' car race on that day, but until then, the "Only men drive cars. Girls are the ones standing around in pretty clothes.(Race Queen)The eldest daughter, who thought she was
Why is a girl dressed like a boy like that!"
He was surprised.
Well, it may be a pretty special world when we think about it in the context of cars, but there are often other situations in our daily lives where we feel that fixed ideas are formed.
Of course, there are things that men can do but women can't, such as physical strength, and I'm not saying that we should force ourselves to compete with men.Narrowing one's possibilities because of one's gender.I wish I didn't have to do that.
Japan today, compared to before, is "aYou can do anything you want if you want to.The world has become a "woman's world". I think there are fewer and fewer things we have to give up because we are women.(Of course, there will be some windfalls.)The following is a list of the most common problems with the "C" in the "C" column.
In such a situation, I think it is the mother who can tell her daughter these things, andMothers can be the closest role models for their daughtersI want to continue to break out of my shell, break down the stereotypes of my daughters, and show them that even girls can buy a Porsche.(It may be none of my business.)
However, I must be careful not to be too desperate and think, "I don't want to be like my mother, do I?
