A wife who understands her husband's hobbies

Recently, I started receiving these comments on my blog and on twitter.

I am sure you are a wonderful couple, a wife who understands her husband's interests so well.
My wife, who understands that driving a Porsche is a sport, is still amazing.
I envy your wife for being so understanding.

Thank you for saying so...m(_ _)m. However, recentlyA wife who understands her husband's hobbies and warmly observes them."I feel that the image of "I'm grateful, but I often feel uncomfortable.I'm not that good of a wife!I thought I would write again about this.（I don't need to go that extra mile.)

My Stance

I think that my wife and I are a little different from the general public image of a married couple, but first I wrote about my basic stance as a wife.

1 Earn money instead of doing what you want.

Instead of doing what you love, make money."What a great way to put it! Basically, I'm a

I want my husband to do what he loves, motivate himself with it, and earn a lot of money for it."

I think. When I tell this kind of thing to my close friendsThe way you think is Showa."Recently, as the number of dual-earner households is increasing, there is a tendency that housework should be shared by both spouses, and husbands should actively take care of children and do accumulated housework on their days off, but I do not expect such things from my husband.

If my husband is someone who likes to do housework, I might ask him to do it, but he also alwaysI don't like the idea of having to share or be obligated to do housework, so I don't do it."So I say, "I don't want to do it, but if you force me to do it, I will get stressed out in my daily life and my husband's performance at work will decrease.

Then you don't have to do housework. On the contrary, you can do what you like to do to the fullest extent and earn a lot of money for it.

This is the idea, and I have told my husband so. On the flip side'I'm doing what I love, spending money on what I love, but I'm not making any money at all.'This implies that if the situation were to become "I'll be so mad, I'm sure I'll be so mad" (explosion).

2 I, too, will do what I want.

in additionYou do what you like, I do what I like."This is the stance that I have taken. When I was married, my husband gave me a

If you want to be a housewife, be one; if you want to work, work. You can do whatever you want, just be in a good mood."

They said. So.I get it! I'll take your word for it!"and have been allowed to do as they please ever since they were married.

I always wanted to continue working in some form or another, even after marriage and having children, so I have been working for about 15 years.(At my age, I don't know for sure anymore.)I've been working all my life. Of course, when children are born, theyPick up from kindergarten or daycare."and ... andI have a fever and need to go to the hospital urgently."I have changed my working style through trial and error, and with the support of my husband, I have made it this far.

Now I want to write the Porsche blog, and I have so many things I want to do, and I'm so full up, and I'm so alone and punked out, that my husband used to say to me, "I want to write the Porsche blog.

No, you don't have to be so desperate. You can do it more comfortably.

They say.But I want to do what I want to do!"and so on, but I am allowed to do as I please. Basically, I am a non-negotiator about what I want to do, so if my husband asks me toWomen should protect their families."in Tokyo"I make the money, you do what I say."If someone said something like that to me, I'd definitely be pissed off.

3 Do not complain about housework

I am not very good at housework and I don't like it very much. So.They don't clean well, and they only turn on the Roomba a few times a week.It is. I don't cook elaborate meals, and I often buy prepared foods because I don't want to bother cooking today.(Recently.Panasonic Rotisserie Grill & Smoke(So I started making pizza and roast beef, but I only make things that are basically set and done.)

But to the husband, if he doesn't do his own housework, then to his wife.You should clean up better."in TokyoPrepare a more varied meal."I have an aura that says, "Don't say that," and in fact, I have never been told such a thing before. If you want, my husband recentlyWhy don't you just ask your housekeeper to do it for you?"I've come to say that (explosions)

4 Do your own thing.

I do the family chores, butWe are both adults; you can take care of yourselves."That is my stance. So I don't clean my husband's room at all, even if it's messy, and I don't do laundry unless I think, "Is this going to be washed?" I don't do laundry unless I put it in the laundry basket.

I believe that it is not the wife's role to take care of his health and physical condition, but he has to be aware of it himself, for example.Rice should be mainly vegetables."in TokyoI want to lose weight, so don't eat fried food."If you say, "I'll do it," I'll do it, but basically, I don't do it from here.

...and writing it again like this...I envy her because she's so understanding when it comes to cars, but she's quite a pain in the ass when it comes to being a wife."I guess they must have thought it was a good idea (-_-).

Actually, my husband and I had similar experiences before we met.

Those who say, "If marriage prevents me from doing the things I want to do, I won't get married.

But as we talked more and more, I realized that I had a lot to say to him. But as we talked about thingsI hope we don't fit ourselves into the world's image of what a married couple should be like, but rather, we should value what we like about ourselves."We found that we had the same idea of what it means to be a good person, and we decided to get married.

My husband is surrounded byI never thought that XXX who said she would never get married would get married!"He was surprised.

I'm free to do what I want...

About 9 years ago, shortly after I started my current job, I met my husband, who is 7 years older than me. It was a difficult time for me because my job was not going well at all, so my husband often gave me advice on my work, and even after we were married, he helped me tremendously with the site and server relations.(My husband is an IT guy.)

However, since I was a self-contained person from the start, my personality remained the same: "I confide in my husband only when I am driven, punked, or physically ill," and I would periodically explode.Here we go again.I was being consulted as I was being told to do so.

After I gave birth to my first daughter, I had a flat tire from balancing work and childcare.I'm out of this job!"And when I told him in tears.

I understand. If that's what you want to do, you can do that, but what do you really want to do?"

He asked me.No, no, no, we can't give up at this point!"and was inspired each time.(I am a simple person, after all.)

And this year. After the results of the work I had done, I was completely burned out and decided to reduce the weight of my work a bit and in return, I decided to get serious about this Porsche blog. Even then.

Well, if that's okay with you, Mina-chan, then it's okay."

He said quietly. If I were in the opposite positionIt would be a shame to give up after all we've been through!"I would have said, "I'm sorry, but I'm not going to be able to do that" (explosion). And.

If you're serious about the Porsche blog, I'll support it too."

and he has been providing a lot of support for this blog in terms of server relations, tuning, and providing stories. And just the other dayI was too rooted and down.even when

Don't work so hard. You just need to slack off moderately.

He laughed and gave me advice, and when I went crazy with childcare and complained and complained, he shut up and listened to me to the end.(I did it while fiddling with my phone, though.)

And always.

"Mina-chan is aMasako ShirasuI don't want anything from Mina that the rest of the world wants from a wife. I don't want anything from you that people want from their wives. You should do whatever you want.

He says.

...so, from the time we got married until now.

I was actually the one who was given free reign."

If it wasn't for my husband, I don't think I would be able to do this right now.

I'm getting embarrassed to be writing something so out of character, so I'll stop here... I mean, I'mA wife who understands her husband's hobbies and warmly observes them."rather thanI hope my husband does as well as I do."It was my wife who said, "W