I Brought Up This Topic with My Husband

When I talked about this, my husband said:

Trust is important, sure. But even CEOs who earn huge incomes and are considered successful sometimes don’t get freedom at home. In those cases, maybe the wife’s standards are just very high and the husband hasn’t met them yet, or maybe those husbands actually do better with some restrictions.
There are definitely “people who should be given freedom” and “people who shouldn’t.” Wives need to figure out which is which.

I thought, that makes sense… Looking around, many very successful men are “under the thumb of their wives.” It’s quite common in the entertainment world too.

Still, it’s not easy to tell which type your husband is. For me, maybe because I’m the youngest of two siblings, I’m not the “tough, big-sister type who pushes others along.” I’m always focused on myself (lol), so I don’t think men who like that kind of woman approach me.

My husband continued:

By the way, I’m the type who needs freedom, and winning that freedom is my motivation.
In exchange for buying the car I want and going on tours, I consciously work to earn enough so I don’t get complaints. I also try to make things easier for my wife by using time-saving appliances and housekeeping services.
That costs money, but being able to pay for that is also part of my motivation. That shows how strong my desire for ‘freedom’ is.(More passion, lol)
In the end, if a husband wants freedom, he has to overwhelmingly exceed his wife’s expectations.

I thought, wow, my husband is working hard to earn his freedom while I’ve been comfortably relying on him (lol). Come to think of it, it wasn’t me who suggested time-saving appliances or housekeeping services—it was him who said, “If it’s that tough, want to try housekeeping services?”

From his perspective, “I never said you had to do housework properly, but since you get overwhelmed and irritated, I want you to be happier.”

He also said:

Japanese people tend to feel guilty about “earning money,” but there’s nothing wrong with it. We should remove that mental barrier and face it head-on.
I’ve always been conscious of “earning,” and rather than aiming for some “annual income X million yen” line, I set goals based on how much I need to earn to do what I want at that time, and I keep achieving those goals.
It’s the same with companies: a company that isn’t profitable can’t provide good service. When profitable, it can invest in better services and delight customers more.
I think the same applies to families. Earn well, gain freedom, and only when you’re fulfilled can you make those around you happy. That’s why earning is important.
I say this like I’m an expert, but I’m still far from my ideal.

I want to be able to one day say “Thank you always” to my husband and casually gift him a Grand Seiko watch (lol), so alright, I’ll do my best too!