Your Favorite Car—and Your Ideal Woman?

My husband once told me:

“A man’s taste in cars often has a lot in common with the kind of woman he’s attracted to. Based on my own observations over the years, I’d say there’s a lot of truth to it.”

I’d never heard that theory before, but I decided to test it. “So what about guys who love Ferraris?” I asked.

“They care about looks and like to stand out. To them, a car is part of their style, so they’re drawn to women who are beautiful and glamorous—like models.”

Well… now that he said it, I could kind of see what he meant.

A Few More Examples

All right, then… “What about someone who loves classic cars?”

“Let’s see… Older cars break down more often and cost a lot to maintain. So maybe they like women who need constant attention, expect a gift for every anniversary, and keep them on their toes.”

Fair enough. “Then what about someone who likes the Prius?”

“Maybe he wants a woman who doesn’t cost much or demand a lot of attention—someone who won’t waste money, even after they get married.”

I see.
“And what about someone who says they don’t care what kind of car they drive?”

“They’re probably not interested in women. They’re just not someone who cares about that kind of thing.”

…Is that really how it works?

What Does My Husband’s Taste in Cars Say About Him?

Then I started to wonder.

If a man’s taste in cars matches the kind of woman he likes, does that mean “my husband’s ideal car = me”?

I’d be pretty disappointed if it turned out we had nothing in common, so I decided to figure it out on my own rather than ask him. My husband loves Porsches and can’t stop raving about the 981 Boxster GTS he owns. I wrote more about how he feels about his Boxster in this article:

→ Related article: A 981 Boxster GTS owner on the appeal of Porsche’s last naturally aspirated flat-six.

Thinking back, here are some of the things he often says:

① The Boxster is fun to drive because its steering is precise down to the last millimeter.
② Driving with the top down and the open road ahead is so much fun.
③ I love the engine sound. It’s not some obnoxious roar—it’s music.
④ It would be amazing to drive the Boxster along Germany’s Romantic Road.
⑤ It’s not just a car. It’s my partner.
⑥ I don’t worry about fuel economy, but for the way it drives, it’s actually pretty good.
⑦ A light-colored interior shows dirt, so you’re always wiping it down. Black is great because the dirt doesn’t show.
⑧ It’s great because you don’t see many of them around town.
⑨ Even if I get too old to get around easily, I want to keep driving this Boxster.

So what do those things look like when you translate them into the kind of woman he likes?

① A woman who’s fun to talk to and always on the same wavelength
② A woman who makes him feel free to be himself
③ A woman with a lovely voice
④ A woman he could take on a drive along Germany’s Romantic Road
⑤ A partner as much as a wife
⑥ A woman who isn’t obsessed with saving money, but doesn’t waste it either
⑦ A woman who doesn’t need constant attention and can handle whatever life throws at her
⑧ A woman who’s one of a kind
⑨ A woman he can enjoy spending time with, even when he’s an old man

Is that what he means?

Am I the Boxster’s Match?

Now for the important part: does this ideal woman sound anything like me? That’s what really matters. If we’re completely different… well, I guess that’s just how it is. So I went through the list, one item at a time.

① A woman who’s fun to talk to and always on the same wavelength
→ I think we share a similar sense of humor and outlook on life.
② A woman who makes him feel free to be himself
→ Judging by how we act around each other day to day, I don’t think he feels uncomfortable with me.
③ A woman with a lovely voice
→ Hard to say… But a long time ago, my husband did tell me, “Your voice sounds like Megumi Yasu.” (Sadly, he meant my voice—not my face! lol)
④ A woman he could take on a drive along Germany’s Romantic Road
→ We’ve actually done that together.
⑤ A partner as much as a wife
→ That’s not entirely off the mark. We feel more like a team than a traditional married couple.
⑥ A woman who isn’t obsessed with saving money, but doesn’t waste it either
→ I’m not great at saving, but I’m happy with Uniqlo clothes and a meal at Gusto.
⑦ A woman who doesn’t need constant attention and can handle whatever life throws at her
→ I don’t care much about anniversaries. In fact, I usually forget them.
⑧ A woman who’s one of a kind
→ I’m probably not what most people think of as a typical woman. I don’t have many friends I really click with—and I’m fine with that. (lol)
⑨ A woman he can enjoy spending time with, even when he’s an old man
→ I hope I can be that kind of person.

Maybe his theory isn’t so far off after all. My husband values living a rich and fulfilling life, and he doesn’t care much about conventional expectations. I suspect he looks for that same kind of independent spirit in a woman, too (though I’ve never actually asked him).

Whatever the case, I’d better keep working on myself so I can be a woman worthy of the Boxster. lol