The One Thing I Consciously Avoided

Still, even I had one thing I consciously kept in mind during our marriage. It wasn’t about “doing ○○” but rather “not doing ○○,” and that was

not restricting my husband’s freedom.

Not stopping my husband’s “wants” like “I want to go touring,” “I want to drive,” or “I want to buy a car.” This is partly because I’m the type who feels extreme stress when I can’t do things freely, so I want to be free too.

But great freedom comes with great responsibility, so

“there’s a difference between doing whatever you want even if it bothers others and being free while fulfilling your responsibilities.”

We both understand this to some extent.

Though I say this confidently, sometimes I feel like I’m just doing whatever I want freely…

So, I’m not an “ageman,” and I believe that meeting and marrying a husband who wants to “aim higher and succeed” and who works hard himself is why we are where we are today. I think women should focus more on meeting men with high potential for future success than on trying to become an “ageman.” This article shares my personal view.