Are Car Geeks Really Unpopular…?

When browsing the internet or Twitter, you sometimes come across posts like “Car geeks aren’t popular” or “I can’t get a girlfriend.” But is it really true that car geeks aren’t popular…?

After thinking about it for a while… I still believe,

Car geeks really aren’t popular. (Or rather, who am I to say!?)

I’m fully aware that I’m neither a love guru nor a stunningly beautiful and kind woman like Haruka Ayase, so I’m not exactly qualified to talk about this topic… but I’d like to share my perspective as a woman.

I think the reason people say “Car geeks aren’t popular” is because “no matter what, the car always comes first.” This “car comes first” mindset is probably hard for most women to accept.

For example, take my husband (sorry for using him as an example in a ‘not popular’ context)…

Back when he was driving an SLK350, we parked at his parents’ place. When I tried to get out from the passenger seat, the seat position was lower than I expected, and I couldn’t engage my abs properly, so I lost my balance while holding the door handle.

“If I keep holding on, the door will hit the wall beside us!” I quickly let go of the door, but then my hand had nowhere to go and slammed hard onto the concrete ground, causing pain in my palm. I couldn’t help but say “Ouch!!!” and grimace, and my husband immediately said:

Are you okay?! What about the door!!!

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…LOL.

At that moment, I felt like I was seeing “a microcosm of our future married life.” (laughs)

What if We Look at It Differently?

Generally, I think women like “men who are considerate toward women, good at making women happy, and look cool” (and probably vice versa). So if a man often acts like “Is the car more important than me?!” when you’re together, women might think, “I don’t think I can be with this person.”

That might be why people say “Car geek men aren’t popular with women.”

But I think car geek men, just like they’re devoted to their cars, are also devoted to women (many of them, anyway).

Looking around me, many car geek men cherish their girlfriends or wives. (Though they might not be the most skillful at expressing those feelings.)

Also, their geeky nature often shines in their work, leading to promotions and success. Even if they’re young now, some are motivated to work hard and get recognized because they want to buy and maintain their cars… Focusing on that side of things,

working hard, climbing the career ladder, and loving a woman devotedly

sounds like an incredibly wonderful man!!

You might say, “Yeah, but where are the women who actually see that and find it attractive?” But I feel that “being popular with women” and “meeting the right woman for you” are different things, so

meeting a woman who lets you be yourself, does what you want to do, and accepts you for who you are is more important than just being popular.

Maybe I think this way because I’ve gotten a bit older, haha.

Women Who Accept Car Geeks

From a woman’s perspective, I want to say that there are women who judge men “based on their inner qualities rather than looks, and by their own instincts and values rather than social norms.” They might be few in number, but they definitely exist, and I know quite a few around me.

But one thing I can say is,

those women are definitely a little “different.”

They might look like ordinary women on the outside, but when you talk to them, they’re not quite ordinary—they’re a bit wild or quirky… (in a good way).

They might say things like, “My feelings are different from most people’s, and I don’t mind if my boyfriend or husband loves cars. I have my own passions too, so let’s both enjoy what we love.”

Writing it like this, you might think “Wow, such understanding women, no matter how different they are, that’s awesome!” But here’s a caution:

Don’t expect these women to do what typical women might do (LOL).

For example, if you ask them out, don’t expect them to wake up early and make you a homemade lunch or sandwich, or to gently listen and comfort you when work is tough…

You shouldn’t expect those things (and I’m one of those women, by the way).

But on the flip side, because they’re not ordinary, they accept car geeks who are also not ordinary and let them be free.

When You Meet One, Hold On Tight!

Now, the important question: “Where are these women?”… I honestly don’t know (hey!) But I’m pretty sure,

they don’t show up at mixers,
and they’re not registered at marriage agencies.

So it’s even harder to meet them… (-_-)

But this is just a feeling, and since meeting someone is about fate and people who are meant to meet will meet, maybe you don’t have to search hard outside—such women might be closer than you think.

The important thing is, when you feel “This is it!” about a woman in front of you, don’t hesitate or hold back—grab her firmly. Just like when you find the car you want, you do whatever it takes to get it (laughs).

…Honestly, I’m not even sure who I’m talking to anymore, so I’ll stop here for today m(_ _)m